In Christianity there is Courtship NOT Dating

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couple_in_in_fieldIn today’s world all you hear is “we are in a relationship, so we dating.’ One thing we fail to realize as Christians however is that, there is a difference between Dating someone and courting someone. I personally think courtship is a more scriptural way to meet a prospective spouse than dating. BTW: You may be using the word date but not necessarily have the same understanding as this definition. If you say you date but don’t do what I define as dating, then you are practicing courting, although you might still use the term dating.

In my opinion, the difference between the two is in the motif. Courtship is the way to go. It’s built on the foundations of true love, which is: trust, friendship, mutual respect, care. When people are courting, they are in the business with the sole aim of marrying. It doesn’t involve unnecessary intimacy and touching of intimate body parts that are reserved for marriage. Christians in courtship invite God into their relationship.

My definition of dating is having a romantic time with a loved one.  It often involves romantic talk, holding hands, kissing, making out, and oftentimes sex. There is intimacy, without commitment! This is not biblical! I’ve also heard of a type of dating known as ‘Blind dating’. Is that biblical? For dating, it’s all about two people trying to find their way out. The ideology is ‘we are intimate, yet we may not marry’. That lacks the foundation on which love is built. The results of dating is the unnecessary break ups we see these days.

Choosing a spouse is a major decision that requires a lot of patience and maturity. Is there any required age for courtship as Christians? Should Christians ‘Date’? Your views and comment are welcome. Don’t forget it’s courtship ……Not dating. May The Lord bless and keep you all.

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  • http://www.loverealm.org Yaw Ansong

    Hmm….I thought dating was ‘going out’ with someone and finding out more about the person. Then you can court.

    In my mind dating ->Courtship -> Marriage

    I may be wrong…I’m not an expert at this…

  • Raquel

    1st off blind date is when you do not know the person, but a friend or someone sets you up with someone, to go to a movie or dinner, dating does not always mean someone is having sex, it is a way of getting to know someone, courting is pretty much the same thing as dating, and unless you live in a country where marriages are pre arrange it does not mean your courting bc your going to marry that person, it takes time to know someone, let alone to marry some one. God knows we are never going to be perfect but we are to keep ourselves pure until we are married,

    • http://www.loverealm.org Yaw Ansong

      I agree perfectly with your comment, I think culture has a lot to do with this, but she defined it anyway and stated emphatically that if your definition of dating is not the same as hers, then you may be doing the right thing.

      Raquel, what do you think? Should you court someone just because you want to know the person? Shouldn’t the idea be to marry the person?

  • Raquel

    Not at all, simply bc you met someone and you like them , not love but like, you spend time with that person, you can not just met someone and say right away hmm I think I want to marry him..I am from the USA, here we date, it does not mean we go out and have sex, it means we take time, to see what the other person is about, now on this Yaw, I think courting / dating is really pretty much the same. Although in some religions such as Mormons they believe in old men marrying little girls, I am totally against , just as did muhammed who took the child Alisha I think that’s how you spell her name, but that’s not courting or dating that is child slavery where a child is being forced to be with an old man. But yes I do believe you take time to marry someone so as to know that person as best as you can 🙂 God Bless 🙂

    • http://Www.mail2web.com Yvonne

      Hi dear,thanks for your comment…you are very right there.the basic line is that….one should take his or her time before entering a relationship with the sole aim of marrying that special one….there you don’t waste your time.stay blessed

      • http://www.loverealm.org Yaw Ansong

        lol…:)
        amen!

    • http://www.loverealm.org Yaw Ansong

      Thank you so much on the insight….I don’t have much info on this, so it’s been insightful. What about blind dating? What do you think of it…

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